Three years ago, in trying to understand my mother's Alzheimer's, The 36-Hour Day was recommended reading by a close friend. I remember reading it on a return flight north after spending a few days in Florida with my folks.
As I was reading it, over and over again, I'd either smile or tear up, as I found answers to what we were experiencing. With the very first chapter I read I started to understand what we were up against. It felt good to know my feelings weren't unique and almost exhausting to think about the days to come.
Several years later, in Paula Falk's Caregiver Support Group, I found more answers. It felt good to hear the book that helped me the most was on the suggested reading list for Caregivers. The book taught me something the Support Group reinforced - none of us have to be alone.
The support group is how my relationship with the Friendship Centers started. No group of people did more to help us, as each week Alzheimer's robbed us a little more of the "Mom" we knew.
Blog posts are just snippets of life and our experiences and they can't solve all the challenges of any topic. However, if you're dealing with dementia, pick up a copy of the book. (Just click on it above to get some sample pages from Amazon.) Then, along with the book, get yourself into a support group.
I was lucky to be here in Sarasota. If you're outside the area, check on google for the Council on Aging or Senior Center in your area. You should also check with the Alzheimer's Association and AARP to find out what resources are nearby.
Dealing with the challenges of being a caregiver is so filled with anxiety, but it doesn't have to be. You just need to have a little faith.
"The beginning of anxiety is the end of faith, and the beginning of true faith is the end of anxiety." George E. Mueller